Women just need to signal openness. Research has shown that matches need at least five positive signals before they have the courage to approach you – everyone after all worries about rejection! Making sure that your body language projects openness to connection is one strategy to send the message that you are welcoming new people in your life.
An example of signaling openness is to have the courage to smile and smize (smile with our eyes). It is the best “green signal”. Being the dalagang Filipina that we are, many of us are not comfortable being the one to approach. But, in a true young Pinay adult spirit, we can certainly make ‘paramdam’ and let them come to us. Smiling and smizing are the modern ways of dropping that handkerchief. And a powerful eye contact is a key to the heart.
Try asking them a question
Once in a while, you can make use of ‘hero instinct’ to your advantage. This strategy is inspired by a psychology concept called the Benjamin Franklin Effect, which suggests that we tend to like people we have helped or did something for.
Consider sending the first message by asking your match to drop their best adobo recipe, skincare or workout routine.
“I used to feel like I had less of a say, less agency, on how my dating life turned out, because I didn’t know what standards to uphold or boundaries to enforce. Learning the ‘art of making the first move’ has made me capable of saying yes to the dating opportunities that actually suit me, and lead me to more favorable or genuine connections”, said Tinder member Adarrah, 23.
🎶God, it’s brutal out here!🎶 as THE Olivia Rodrigo sings it. But as Coach Vee would say, dating would not be as fun if all the people who go out to meet someone would immediately find their perfect match. What makes dating and love so exciting is the thrill of the unknown, sometimes all you have to do is to take charge.
And speaking of taking charge, hop on Tinder ahora and start shooting your shot with the ultimate dating hacks! This is your dating life. So, go on, sis! Unleash that main character energy.